Tuesday, December 16, 2014

11 Holiday Myths to Rethink

          It's easy during this time of year to turn traditions and ways of doing things in the past into ruts that no longer serve us. Here are 11 holiday myths that you might want to rethink:

          1. Being with family is a must during the holidays.

          2. Buying ‘the perfect gift’ is required.

          3. You’ll upset your hosts if you
               don’t imbibe at their parties.

          4. You’re really a slouch unless you
                craft a gift or make some food

         5. You’re not a spiritually contributing member of your
              community unless you work in a soup kitchen, visit
              seniors in convalescent homes or volunteer to carol…with
              anyone, anywhere.

         6. You have to be the one who drives all over to visit family
               and extended family.

         7. Being alone is a no-no.

         8. Complaining about the cost of gifts, the commercialization
              of the holidays, the bad weather or how much weight 
              you’ve gained is required daily.

        9. If I don't do it, it won't get done, and it must get done.

      10. You are responsible for making others happy at this time of

      11. You can start to take better care of yourself right after the
(don't wait, start now)

     The real message here is to do what works for you. Look at what you've always done and see if it still creates a warm glow of joy within you.

You might also enjoy:  Celebrate What? A Gift for You at Christmas
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Tuesday, December 9, 2014

Should You or Shouldn’t You?

          “Should” is one word I think should be eliminated from our vocabulary. Oops, guess that isn't so easy to do! Every time I hear it, I cringe. My experience has been that “should” is usually accompanied by some standard established by “them,” you know, those faceless people who we allow to run our lives.

Where did 'should' come from?

          What is this ‘should’ and where did it come from? My guess is it came right from our childhoods, both at home and in school. And didn’t we do just a dandy job of incorporating it into our adult lives? Don’t we so effortlessly go about setting myriad standards based on these “shoulds”?

          “Should” is the simple past tense of the word “shall” but do these two words seem as far apart to you as they do to me? I “shall” do something sounds so purposeful and elegant while “should” sounds slightly angry and parental.

          I’m here today to say “No more!” It’s time to let go of “should.” Regardless of where “should” came from, it’s time to unwind the habit of using it to share our knowledge, opinions, wants, and better judgments.

          I say, either do it or not and quit talking about it. Don’t waste everyone’s time by verbalizing what you know is best

but is clearly something you don’t want to do. And, as far as others go, NEVER say what someone else should or shouldn’t do. If the "shh" sound begins to escape your lips, immediately stop yourself. No one wants you to be their conscious or better judgment; leave that to them. They either will or won’t.

For me ...

          Also, I know for myself, I rarely make any lasting changes from a negative stance. Thus, to wave a “should” in front of me is nearly a guarantee I won’t proceed. When I’m kind and compassionate with my less than glowing behavior, thoughts or words, I feel a slight shift toward the positive which is better than none.

          For entertainment I’ll check out that list of ten foods I shouldn’t eat (or clothes not to wear or things not to say or degrees to pursue or colors to dye my hair) but that’s all it is to me….a lineup prepared by “them.” And, as we all know, you shouldn’t listen to them……

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Tuesday, December 2, 2014

Antonia's List

          Over the weekend I went to the mall … to visit with Santa and let him know what I wanted for Christmas. I waited in line with all the other excited children – and a few not so excited ones. When it got to be my turn, I gingerly climbed up into his lap, and you know that took some doing! But I got there and smiled brightly into his sparking light blue eyes.
          Then I began to tell him exactly what I hoped he’d bring me this Christmas. You might guess I asked for world peace and an end to hunger and strife everywhere, plus I asked for a termination to debilitating diseases and poverty. Indeed I joyously requested these good things for the world, but my "want" list was long and very personal. It was mostly about me.
I asked for:
     - Patience:  the thing I lack the most and need unequivocally 
     - The ability to forgive unconditionally, without consideration 
          for the magnitude of the wrong
     - Loyalty to my friends so they know they can always
on me
     - The vulnerability to show my transparent, genuine and
          sincere side without worrying about how I'm coming

     - Loving kindness for all living things

     - An abundant generosity for random acts of kindness 

          as well as giving for the more visible needs
     - Loving friends who accept me as I am, foibles and all

     - And, finally, that which I continuously seek:
          and respect for all my imperfect perfection.

          My list is not small, as you can see. What is your list? And how will you be your own Santa?

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